From Michele: There are some people that you meet that you use know you have to get to know. And was the case for me in knowing Falak Sehar. A girl that literally claps for everyone on social media, she is one person you would want in your crowd. But despite all her positivity, there’s one thing you should know. You should know that it wasn’t always like that… she had struggles as well. So read her story, and get to know what happened behind the scenes. A story that she hasn’t felt comfortable sharing before, but that she’s sharing on this page.
I didn’t know how to begin this, was very hesitant to share my personal life. It’s not that I’m ashamed or anything. Just wanted to keep my personal life personal and only share it with few good people that I can trust and rely on.
My name is Falak Sehar and this is my story:
At the age of 16, one late night I got into a brutal car accident on the highway while coming home from DC to Virginia. I can still recall till today my ears were ringing I felt like my whole world collapsed I felt nothing but pain everywhere. I saw my legs being dislocated I bled badly. This was my first sight at the accident scene. The guy who ended up hitting my car was drunk and died at the scene. I’ve no regrets anymore and I cannot hate someone who is not even alive anymore I forgave him long time ago.
My struggle for 5 years or so:
After the accident I knew I would die there is no coming back or recovering from the condition I was in. In the hospital while I was there it was a constant struggle and dealing with depression/mental trauma. I lost mostly all of my friends and I didn’t want to connect with them either.
I used to tell my mother that she should just let me die.
My legs were completely done I barely had any sensation.
Doctors gave up on me as well they said that I won’t be able to walk ever in life.
After discharge being a teenager I wanted to be normal like rest of us and not rely on others even my family for basic things like getting up from the bed or needing assistance for minor day-to-day things.
During this time I was very suicidal going through mental and physical trauma because doctors gave their words that I will not have sensation in my legs at all. Next 2-3 years it was a constant struggle going through numerous medical procedures. However, I saw my mother’s health getting worse and how unhappy she was because of me, so I decided I should give it a shot because doctors are human beings, just like us.
On Giving It a Shot…
I told myself I’ve got to get off from this wheelchair and never look back. I worked with numerous physical therapists that turned into my friends and motivation (since I lost all of my school friends). What kept me going was a list that I made for myself it stated in the future the list of goals I would like to accomplish.
Almost 5 years I spent my days in a wheelchair and doctors call me a miracle to be achieving and being able to walk again.
During this time I was misdiagnosed multiple times I developed another chronic health condition. I found out that I was diagnosed with lupus again how do I deal with this and lupus affecting my legs once again? It’s a constant battle one thing I told myself was if god has given me a second chance in life I’ll give in all I’ve and I won’t give life an excuse that I didn’t try hard enough.
Today:
I’m finishing my university education in healthcare management and business, working, driving, chasing my dreams and pursuing my passion for traveling and photography. I still have a constant battle with lupus and being in chronic pain undergoing medical procedures but I’ve changed this into my strength and I’ve never looked back ever again at my wheelchair.
Recently Diagnosed with Lupus?
Here are a few sites to look into:
1.) https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/lupus/symptoms-causes/syc-20365789